This City Girl Runs The Suburbs -a run-on commentary

Photo Credit: Seussville

After living in New York for over 10 years, I find myself feeling a bit at sea out here in suburban Georgia. For the most part, this city girl moves under the power of her two feet whether that means running or walking, and there’s biking when I’m plumb out of pocket of options. Because my feet are the primary mode of getting around, I place a high value on my ability to move: speed, agility, and strength, being the building blocks of my mobility. That said, I’m super grateful that I have these options out here even when passersby feel the need to stop and offer me a ride. It’s that southern hospitality they’re famous for or so I tell myself. I suppose it’s a bit of a rarity to see someone walking or biking from the grocery store. On a side note, I went to the local Walmart on a scouting mission to look for some decorative stickers and found myself on the receiving end of a few curious stares and comments as I meandered through the aisles with my bike. Next time I’ll probably park it, though I didn’t notice any designated parking. I am unfazed by the novelty I present to these driving surburbanites. I run to the gym, the pharmacy, to family and friends, to the library, and anywhere within a five-mile radius whether for purpose or fun and sometimes fun is the purpose. Interestingly, I don’t run to church, well for two reasons really: it’s a bit farther than five miles, which just happens to be as there’s a church on almost every corner. They don’t call it the Bible Belt for nothing. Also, running to church is impractical even for me. I mean, the shoes, the dress etc., the good Lord knows it just wouldn’t work. Jokes aside, running is one of the ways I get to explore my neighborhood and find little hideaways – the less-traveled path if you will. Plus, taking care of an elderly person warrents some running away for mental and emotional health – it’s a bit of a destressor and I make no excuses for that. I’m just grateful for the opportunity and the ability to get going when the need arises. When I’m out walking it’s usually with a goal in mind and may include the grocery store, the thrift store, from the gym somtimes – after a grueling workout. I also take mom out almost-daily on short walks in our neighborhood as well. Walking – the slowest of my options is not my favorite as you may have guessed. I much rather a faster pace, which running and biking allows me. It turns out that getting the bike was one of the best decisions I made in 2020, even though it was for a triathlon that’s yet to happen. Since then, its taken me places and afforded me a greater bandwidth in terms of exercise and movement than I had before. I’m glad I didn’t get rid of it when I moved down and  had the presence of mind to plan ahead in this regard. Biking around is growing on me as most of it happens on the roads and I’m still growing confidence to ride with traffic. I think the cars are getting accustomed to me too. Bike lanes are not so much a rarity but just appears at random and doesn’t go a whole lot of anywhere really. Like the running community, biking isn’t so common either – at least not in the neighborhoods. I did join a local Tri club, so there’s proof the community exists. But as with everything in these parts, they’re a bit of a distance away and I have yet to make it to the meetups. On the other hand, I have been swimming in a local pool and working up my nerve to get in the open water next year. Step by step, bit by bit, I’m confident I’ll get there. I’m getting better at accepting that things won’t always happen when I want them to or just because I want them to. Sometimes, it’ll take a while or turn out a bit different than I want and that’s ok. I just have to do my part and that is enough. I guess the next question is, what is my part? I’ll just say for now that in each season of life “my” part may look different and so could yours.

Healthy in Mind as in Body 🧠💪📝🤯👩🏽‍⚕️🧰📜✍🏼☎️💑🍎



At the rate this pandemic is going I figure it’s a good idea to address the issue of our mental well-being. In this season especially, but not singularly, it’s not enough to keep fit physically, more and more we’re coming to understand that caring for the mind is just as important. We know that physical exercise can help our mental state; we’ve talked about its positive impact through the release of those feel-good endorphins and its ability to put us in a better frame of mind etc. But juxtaposed to this is the inability to engage fully in any exercise activity without the capacity of a sound mind. If we’re anxious and/or feeling any anyone of its “cousins” like fear, depression, stress etc., it’s next to impossible to actively engage ourselves in any type of activity to promote our well being.

Like exercise is to the body so is peace to the mind. And because these are highly-stressful times, we need to pay as much attention to caring for our minds as our bodies. Mental health professionals, and many others, will agree that, present circumstances notwithstanding, the issue of mental health is one that has been getting increasing attention in recent years. There are many reasons for this but some have pointed to the advance in technology – the rise of social media – and the subsequent decline in real substantial relationships and meaningful, face-to-face communication as a delineating factor in the increase of psychological and mental issues that many face. While there are many contributory factors, I chose this one to make the case that if this is indeed so, then this season could be especially difficult for some of us. The fact is we have the makings of a perfect storm with the economic and social fallout from Covid-19. People, the world over and in these United States, are dealing with a conglomeration of issues from grief of the loss of family members, to sickness themselves, to unemployment, to restrictions to their freedom, to isolation in some instances, and then not enough space in others as a result of being in quarentine. It’s enough to make anyone lose their will along with their mind. And with all the losses already, that’s the one thing we can’t afford to lose.

I can’t promise that I have any profound knowledge when it comes to mental health and I’ll be the first to point anyone with any real and lasting issue/concern to a mental health professional: therapist, counsellor, or doctor for a consult and appropriate treatment. But I think it’s important to be aware that there is a need for us to be proactive in our own mental care to preempt a downward slide into what could turn into a concern that may require treatment. With that in mind, I’ve dug around and gotten some ideas on how we can take care of the invaluable real estate that is our minds in these trying times.

Things to do:

  • Create a Care Plan for Your mind – this is a more general and long-term-type plan but can include some short-term ideas you can then transfer to a daily schedule. These activities will differ from person to person but will generally consists of  aspects of fun, meditation or prayer, music, art, and/or creative ideas, life-long learning activities, and rest and relaxation.
  • Create a daily schedule – that includes some of the above so as remain focused and on task. This will leave less time for idle hands and minds. You might include a task or project you devised to empower or help yourself or someone else.               Examples are: Reorganize and clean out your closets and bag stuff for donations, safely volunteer at a soup kitchen or pantry, and plant a kitchen garden. 
  • Journal or Write – journal your thoughts, your prayers, your intentions, or whatever you’re feeling. Often, writing things out can help with processing difficult issues and allows room fora  honest and sometimes more objective assessment, which can help you to determine next steps. Writing also provides clarity and can help in either keeping you on course or provide a proactive approach to indicate when you’re running off course.
  • Stay connected – human connections via family or friends, or a mentor, pastor, group members and leaders are important to keep you grounded and to help you feel you’re not alone even with all the social distancing and quarentine guidelines. It is also important to know that there’s someone there to reach out to if you need to talk or need help of some kind.
  • Begin a New Course of Study/ Skill – Now is a good time to pick up a new course of study, a language, or a skill if you’re one with a lot of time on your hands. Choose something that can be beneficial to you and can add value to your field or career choice, or if you just for personal development. For example, graphic design might be feasible if you’re creative-minded and have some technical knowledge.

I encourage you to go easy on yourself. These are trying times to say the least so it’s ok to be patient and kind to yourself. Encourage yourself, challenge yourself, be good to yourself, but more importantly love yourself. If at anytime you feel you’re can’t process it all, reach out to someone. Get help. Contrary to popular opinion, reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness but takes enormous strength, wisdom, and humility. Stay strong-minded friends.

source: lifekdesigns.com

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