We Can Do Hard Things

Life happens to us all.  They say if you live long enough, you’ll see it all. Now, I’m not a Debbie Downer or anything, but I’ve lived long enough to see that a good head on one’s shoulders – like my grandmother used to say – goes a long way in helping you face the challenges that will come. Life can be hard: seasons can be hard, transitions can be hard, relationships can be hard, saying goodbye can be hard, waiting can be hard, juggling a busy schedule can be hard, dealing with health issues is hard and there are a hundred other hard things we can and will face if we live long enough. Man or woman, none of us are exempt. Unfortunately, hardship in life is certain. Fortunately, we grow through what we go through and in the end it’ll be alright.

In training and working with clients, I talk a lot about our ability to do hard things and I encourage myself and others in pushing limits and being ok with things that stretch you. The way I see it, in life, we will encounter goliaths. For my part, I’ve faced a few especially this year and I find it consoling to know that it’s not just me. I have friends who have had their fair share and others who are currently in hard seasons. There are also many accounts from biblical history to our modern day of those who have struggled through hard stuff and had to find their way to the other side. Now, I’m not out here celebrating another’s struggles but it’s consoling that goliaths are not handpicked for me specifically. We will all encounter them. Turns out the path of the biblical narrative of David and Goliath is more oft traveled than we think.

Today as the end of year approaches, I feel the desire to wander down the road of hard things that I’ve had to face in 2025. It’s worth noting that when I stood on the cusp of the then new year some twelve months ago, it looked and felt so different from where I am right now, and while that’s not a bad thing it is the result of a Goliath I was faced with and the ensuing hard choices that followed.

I can’t talk hard choices without talking faith. My faith in God has been the glue that has held things together when life’s been all kinds of uncertain this year. I’ve had to navigate the challenges of transitioning from one state to another, giving up my job, my apartment, my community,  activities, changing churches, and parting with my friends and my favorite city and running home for the past fourteen years. In hindsight, it all happened way too quickly and I really couldn’t take it all in then. Now I know it was the grace of God that allowed me to zero-in on what was ahead of me.

These days I’m pretty nostalgic for the city that holds a chunk of my heart and so many running and CrossFit memories. I ran my first marathon in New York City and just about every race and down every street, and ran in Central Park until I knew every nook and cranny, so saying goodbye to 10+ years of running those streets is a process and I’ve given myself permission to grieve this loss. I could not have known that moving wasn’t the hardest thing I’d face this year. I talked myself into believing that I had peace about the move so it must mean I was confident, able, and excited even. Maybe I was a little of all of those things but the reality of an aging parent in my care would take a few months to sink in. One day it just stopped being like one of my weekly visits to the nursing home that I had done back in New York where the residents were always so pleased and grateful to see me. It became all too personal and real and full of icky emotions and imperfections and I realized, goodness I don’t know what I’m doing and I don’t know if I can. Thankfully, God’s grace is real and it’s enough. Its kept me through the hills and valleys and given me strength to keep on moving. Some days it’s a climb, some I’m out here running, and on others I have to settle for a walk. While I deslike settling, I hate no momentum so I’ll take the slower days gratefully.

Meanwhile, I’m learning my environment and figuring all too quickly that I’m a bit of a tadpole in a frog pond – a bit out of depth moving into my family’s home and having to learn them and they me. I’m still assimilating, still figuring out how to coexist in harmony while being dependent on others for things I’ve taken for granted in the past, things like quiet time and going for a run. Amidst all of the changes, one of the hardest has been changing churches and moving away from the community I had become a part of. I’m still finding my way around that one and slowly figuring new ways to connect. I have responsibilities now and my time is accounted for. I am learning to be ok with that while establishing boundaries for myself and others.hard things. Some of us still are, but I’m believing that when it’s all said and done we will have all defeated our respective goliaths and helped others along the way. In fact, I’m dubbing 2026 the year

I am doing hard things. Chances are so are you or so will you. The good news is that seasons don’t last but with a “good head on your shoulders” you can outlast them. I’m believing for victory, success, growth, strength, and resilience for you and me. May 2026 be the year of facing up to our goliaths with courage, faith, and determination. We can do hard things!

March Madnes, Spring Fever: life lessons in a new season


March means the new year is officially over – no more happy new year greetings. We’re marching into spring, whether we feel it or not, and making crazy plans to overcome the winter malaise that has shrouded us for the past two and a half months; hence my “march madness” concept. The actual concept has everything to do with American college basketball and nothing to do with my take. LOL. But let’s go with my spin for a second as I was heaven bent on sticking with it but for our new reality. You might say, that’s what March used to mean and you may be right. A normal year ago that could be what it meant. What we’re currently facing today is challenging that entire premise.

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Never, in a hundred years, would I have thought I’d be discussing or writing about a virus, on this platform. But our world climate has changed, and the reality has now taken on a somewhat sci-fi feel that has left me and everyone else grasping at the remnants of a world we use to know. A virus that was non-existent in these parts of the world just 10 weeks ago now seems to have the world in its grips and have left millions of Americans and people all over the world grappling with a “new normal”. What do you do when all you have known is suddenly taken from you? To whom do you turn and where do you go? If and when those questions have been answered you may then get a glimpse into the why of it all, but even that is not certain. The only certainty we’re dealing with these days is that life as we once knew it is over. That is the chilling truth. Chilling because while change is anathema to us humans when you add uncertainty and illpreparedness to that, what you have is the making of a perfect storm fanned by the waves of fear.

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People are dying, others are fearful, many are losing their jobs and livelihoods, some are in constant danger and exhausted (our healthcare workers that are on the frontline battling this virus), while there are others still who are tasked with the job of governing and administrating this global disaster. Let’s not forget the sick and vulnerable members of our society like children in foster care and our elderly. And those are only the ones I’ve listed. There are so many other members of society who are also being affected in a very real way by the Covid-19 virus. It’s almost certain that at the end of this no one will escape unscratched. We can only pray. The truth is since little is known about this strain of the coronavirus, its origin,  development, or mutating ability, and certainly there is no conclusive information on how it spreads, or even its most susepctible targets – information appears to be evolving quite rapidly – this leaves many of us in the least favorite and very discomforting position of having little answers and trusting in that which we cannot see. What!

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Humbling and scary as heck to suddenly find ourselves in a position of ignorance with no control over what’s unfolding before our eyes. What to do? Anyone? Since our very lives depend on the actions we take, I want to suggest that we cannot possibly take this lightly. Our next steps could mean anything from gaining hope, perspective, a new understanding, developing a new and/or healthier appreciation for life, faith, health, a new or different habit or may just mean changing our thought patterns and actions to align with a stark new reality. Whatever we do, and decide we must, it will mean embracing a new normal that will forever alter the way we live. My purpose is not to dwell on the fear factor and what may or may not happen or any other “scary” elements of the unknown, that would be an exercise in futility. I’d rather focus on working with what I have right now – the present – and allow the future to take care of itself. In fact, let me be clear, I prefer to let God take care of that for me.

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Since I’ve always been about good health, exercise, and overall well-being, I’m left with the overwhelming sense that these are essentially the things that I must fight for now. It all appears under attack at this time and I dare say it’s both a physical and spiritual battle. How can we respond? Well unarguably, we have more time on our hands these days than we’ve had in some time, with so many people here in the United States, and around the world, facing lockdowns and stay-at-home guidelines. Since we are a people who love to stay busy, it is actually a good thing that we now have to slow down and take the time to intentionally do things that matter for our well-being. There is no better time than now to spend quality time with each other within the family, to incorporate an exercise routine into your day, to focus on cultivating healthy eating, thought, and lifestyle practices, to develop a new hobby, business idea, and/or to build or develop a faith base and spiritual relationship with God. The physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and even financial benefits to be derived from spending time on each of these aspects of, or involving, you, is immeasurable and is worth every moment of your very valuable time. Since time is money, you can be sure you will see the return on your investment in the not-too-distant future.

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Mindful that some of us need to be motivated and encouraged in the area of exercise, in my next post I’ll look at some ideas on how we can take advantage of the time we have now to develop an exercise plan that will allow us a healthy avenue to channel our energy and avoid stress during these challenging times. Stay tuned!

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